Hi everyone! Today I want to talk about Matrons and Patrons and what that’s all about. I remember when I first started my Wiccan journey I was very obsessed with figuring out my Matron. Having come from Christianity originally and wanting nothing to do with it, I wasn’t as interested in finding my patron because I had just come from a masculine dominated religion. All this talk of Matrons and Patrons and I still haven’t explained what they are though. So firstly, you can have more than just one each. A matron though is the main goddess(es) in your life (whether it be your whole life or just a portion of your life). A patron is the main god(s) in your life. And like the matron that god can be around for your whole life or for just a portion of your life. Also typically your matron and patron come from the same pantheon.
There a couple of methods to finding your matron and patron. A lot of the time your matron and patron find you. Some say signs from the god and goddess show up calling you to them. It could be symbols associated with them or animals. Some have dreams or visions about them. If you find that your matron or patron are not coming to you don’t feel bad about it. I didn’t feel like I was getting any signs either. Sometimes that means you just aren’t ready to work with deity or you could just be missing the signs. For those of us who are not as fortunate to see the signs there are other methods. You can try meditation. If you’re experienced with meditation you can do it on your own, if you aren’t (like myself) there are guided meditations for finding your matron and patron on youtube. I personally am garbage at meditation, guided or not, so this method didn’t work for me. You can study pantheons and see what you connect with. This will make your search a little easier. I have been deeply connected to greek mythology since I was in middle school so I always knew greek was my pantheon. What worked for me was doing a tarot spread. If you click this link this will bring you to the tarot spread I used matron/patron tarot spread.
My journey to finding my deities was a bit interesting and it was kinda what started me on my Wicca path as a whole. I was really searching for the religion that fit best with me. I had found Wicca and although the beliefs clicked with me I was hesitant to commit myself to it because of it being so taboo. One day the name Hecate came into my head. Just out of nowhere. I couldn’t get her name out of my head. I was meditating and envisioned a woman with black hair. This to me was some sort of proof to my logical brain. I couldn’t stop thinking about the goddess of Magick and mystic and there she is walking around in my mind. This must be it. And once all of that clicked, Hecate was out of my brain. I truly believe her sole purpose in my journey was to scream at me and say “hey you, this is legit, this is your path, now get to it”. But after Hecate did her job there really wasn’t any other gods or goddesses that stuck out to me. I wasn’t really seeing any signs…. And that wasn’t cutting it for me. I decided if they weren’t going to come to me I would come to them. So I did the spread from the link above and it gave me some direction. But now that I’m typing this I feel a calling to do this spread again. When I originally did this I was inexperienced, firstly in tarot and secondly with my spirituality. This spread did help me find Gaia who I work with very closely now. But other than that I find I don’t really experience any other deities that I pulled. So if you guys would be interested in seeing the results from that spread you should let me know in the comments and I’ll make a post about it. As of right now my Matron is 100% Gaia. I work with her in everything I do and I feel her presence all the time. As for my patron I don’t feel any strong ties to any deity. I do feel more of a pull to Pan than any other but even so that pull isn’t very strong currently.
Once you find your matron and/or patron it can be nice to set up an altar specifically for them or to incorporate them on your regular altar. It is also nice to do rituals for them. Something I really like about my relationship with Gaia is I can just take my pendulum out and she will have conversations with me and help me figure stuff out. I find her to be very nurturing and social. Whenever I see a squirrel or bird linger a little longer I know it’s her saying hi. I’m very thankful to have her in my life.
If you have any thoughts, questions, or want to see the results from my matron/patron spread let me know in the comments! Thanks for reading. Merry Meet and Blessed Be!