When pulled upright this card is about harmony, attractiveness, and perfection in a relationship. This relationship can be romantic, physical, friendship, family, whatever. It is commonly thought of to be about a romantic relationship. It’s about trust and unity which gives the lovers strength and confidence; this empowers them. On the other hand it can be about a choice. A choice between two things that are opposites and are mutually exclusive. This card can also be about your spiritual path and committing to it despite it being unorthodox. You are figuring out what you’re going to stand for and what your philosophy in life really is.
When pulled in reverse his card is about inner/outer/both conflicts that you are dealing with. You are experiencing disharmony that is putting pressure on you and likely your relationships. You need to figure out what you are punishing yourself for and why. You also need to figure out if your beliefs and philosophies align with what you want for yourself. Another interpretation is your communication needs worked on. This lack of communication is likely causing breaks in the foundation of your relationship with a loved one. Lastly this card could mean you are not taking responsibility for your actions. You may have made a decision in the past without thinking about the long term and you are now blaming others for the consequences your decision brought. You need to either let go of the past or make amends and learn from this experience.
Here is a spread that focuses on The Lovers. First I would take The Lovers out of the deck and meditate with it thinking of love and what you want to know about it. Then I would shuffle the cards and pull them using the method you think is best.
Card 1: This card represents your love of yourself, self-love and self-image, representing strengths and weaknesses, or issues to get through.
Card 2: This card represents your love for others, your family, friends, lovers. Can represent a specific person and how you react to him or her, or how you see others, or a relationship.
Card 3: This card represents another factor or person, something not accounted for, because these situations are never simple! Can be a love triangle, or a difficult choice.
Card 4: This card represents strange Fate, or larger currents and directions, situations out of your control. Also represents the love the Universe holds for you, and your trust (or lack of faith) in that.
Cards 1, 2 and 4 are forms of love you will always have and that are not dependent on others: your love for yourself, your love for others, and the love the Universe has for you.
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