Grieving as a Wiccan

Lately I’ve been grieving a lot. This last month or two has been pretty hard. So today I want to talk to you about that. I’ve wanted to talk about it for a while but I wasn’t sure how to format it. So I’m just deciding to write. It may be super long or super short but I think writing this will get it off my chest. My writing style may be a bit different than it usually is, it may not be… I dunno. Regardless I hope you don’t mind.

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The Thursday before the Easter weekend I was contacted by my family, while at work, that my great grandmother wasn’t doing very well. She’s hasn’t been super healthy for a couple years now but nothing crazy. However this time was different. My mom usually tells me that it isn’t anything to worry about yet, but this time she said I might want to come home and see her. So there I was in front of my preschoolers that I teach and I just cried. I told them what was wrong and let me tell you, 4 year olds are so compassionate and loving. They loved me and snuggled me all day long. It was so beautiful. I went to see her that weekend. I live about 3 hours away from my family. My partner and little sister went in with me to see her. She had a hard time talking cause her breathing was very laboured but we had a great visit. That’s the last time I will see my great grandmother. She’s still alive though. When I went to see her she was at her home. Now she is in a hospital and has been for a couple weeks now. My mom says she isn’t the same nan we know and love and that she wouldn’t want me to see her this way. She’s in a lot of pain and is just waiting to die. Every morning I wake up and check my phone to see if I have a message telling me she’s passed. I hope she does soon so she can be at peace. She really hates hospitals. So this is when my grieving started.

Back in March one of the little girls at my preschool (we’ll call her Mabel for privacy sake) went to Florida with her family for a trip. The second day in she got very sick and started having seizures. She had to be put in the hospital. She had what they call F.I.R.E.S. I am not super knowledgeable on what it is. All I know is it’s rare, it started as a common cold, and she had seizures, also 30% of those who get it die from it. However I didn’t know that at the time. It never occurred to me that she would die. Maybe that is naive but that’s how I felt. For two months I had very few updates other than a gofundme page and occasionally something would get written on her classroom attendance sheet about it. Then I came in to work last Friday (the 10th) and was told she didn’t make it. Mabel was 4 years old. I know a dead 4 year old. I was nervous for my kids to find out. I didn’t want them to be sad or scared they were going to die. But when you’re 4 years old 2 months is a long time and a lot of them didn’t remember Mabel very well. I was lucky in that sense so instead of being sad they just had a lot of questions which was a lot easier to deal with. This last Thursday (the 16th) I went to Mabel’s funeral. I wore a pink dress (everyone was in bright pinks and purples as requested by Mabel’s family). It was one of the saddest things I have ever experienced.

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I’m telling you all of this for a couple reasons. One reason is that talking about this I hope will be a little therapeutic for me. I also wanted everyone to understand why my posting has been so inconsistent these last few weeks (also why it may continue to be inconsistent when my nan passes). But also I wanted to share how I am coping as a Wiccan (or if I’m not already doing these things they are things I want to start doing to cope).

What is helping me cope with Nan is first and foremost I know that her passing is going to bring her peace. But also I know that her soul will reincarnate and I will meet it again whether in this life or the next. I’m really trying to focus on the fact that she lived such a great and beautiful life and not on the fact that she’ll be gone.

What is helping me the most when it comes to coping about Mabel is also related to reincarnation but it is a bit different. If you’ve read my post about the signs you are an earth angel you will know that many of these people die as a child. When I think about Mabel, and the beautiful energy her soul had, I confidently feel she had the soul of an angel. Without a doubt. So despite the fact that I don’t totally understand how she died, I can understand why she died and that to me brings great peace.

However other than thinking about these things I have not done much to cope but have just not been thinking about it and it’s probably not the most healthy method of healing. Things that I want to start incorporating into my coping process that you can try too is reiki (be it self reiki or receiving reiki from someone else). I also want to pray more. As I’ve mentioned in my post about my relationship with praying , I tend to stray away from it because it reminds me of Christianity. I think grieving may be a great way for me to change that relationship with prayer because at the end of the day you can pray to whoever or whatever you want, not just the Christian god. So I’d like to reach out to Gaia and Pan more for strength and you can do the same with whoever you matron or patron is. I think meditating and grounding myself will also help me stabilize my emotions. And the last thing I want to suggest for myself and for you is divination. Do spreads to help sort through your emotions. Do spreads for how to cope. Do spreads to talk to those that have passed on if you think that will give you closure. Do a spread to see how your future will be after you’ve moved forward from this hard time.

I hope that this post gives you some ideas on how to cope with what you’re struggling with and also lets you know that even if it feels like you’re all alone and no one understands that there are people who get it (yikes that was cheesy but bear with me). Let me know down below how you use your Wiccan/Pagan faith to get you through times of grief along with any other thoughts or questions you have. Make sure you follow me here and on twitter so you get notifications when I post and when I upload videos to youtube. And until next time, Blessed Be!

 

11 Signs You’re an Earth Angel/Angel Incarnate

Hi everyone! Sorry about the little hiatus for the holidays. I was spending a lot of time with my friends and family. I hope you enjoyed the holidays and are excited for the new year. While I was seeing family I started talking to my dad about my brother, my half-sister, and I all potentially being starseeds and how I think he might be one too. However he told me about how he has had 3 different peoples on separate occasions refer to him as an earth angel or an angel incarnate. So we did a little research and this is what we found.

So, what is an earth angel/angel incarnate? First lets start with saying some sources say they are the same and some say they aren’t. I am going to be assuming they are the same. They are similar to starseeds in the sense that it is a person who’s soul originates from someone who is not human. These beings souls are that of an angel and they have reincarnated into a human form in order to complete their purpose here on earth. When reincarnated into a human form they have to forget their angelic origins. Living on earth is so different compared to how angels would normally live that in order to not be completely miserable they have to forget the way of life they’re used to. Picture knowing you can fly but not actually being able to. Below are some signs that you may be an earth angel/angel incarnate with some examples to how these signs show up in my dad.

#1 You’ve always been connected to nature, mythical creatures, and the meaning of life.

I obviously can’t vouch for how my dad felt about all these things as a child but since I’ve been alive he’s always enjoyed going out on nature walks and camping. Since he was a teenager at least he has always been interested in fantasy books and dungeons and dragons which all have to do with mythical creatures. As for whether or not he is interested in exploring the meaning of life, I would say he is. We talk about our purposes here and origin together often.

#2 You are interested in philosophy, alternative methods of healing, and the metaphysical.

We have not discussed it much because it goes over my head but my dad is quite interested in philosophy. He has taken quite a few classes in Reiki and uses it frequently, if not on a daily basis. As for the metaphysical, I think this topic I am writing about alone is considered metaphysical in itself.

#3 Relationships may be difficult due to being attracted to abusive partners or partners with deep-emotional issues.

My dad has been struggling with finding a long lasting relationship for a while. Every time he thinks things are going well they’ll break up because she’s going through some emotional baggage.

#4 You may often space out, have lucid dreams, vivid dreams, daydreams, or astral projections.

My dad has told me as a kid he would have lucid dreams every night and he could do whatever he wanted in them. If a dream became to overwhelming he could just tell himself to wake up. However, he has told me that as an adult he has stopped remembering his dreams when he wakes up.

#5 You have a hard time with communication so you do so through art, music, writing, and healing.

I don’t know about my dad’s art skills but I do know he enjoys and is great at singing and writing. And, as said above, he does a lot of reiki.

#6 You are not comfortable with your physical body especially your feet, due to being used to flying.

This one gives me a chuckle, because it’s so specific and relevant, as my dad has always had an issue with his feet.

#7 People tell you you look way younger than you are.

As a teenager people always thought my dad was my age. I think this was a mix of him looking young, due to being an earth angel, and me being more mature for my age, due to being a crystal child.

#8 You are in a job where you care for others in one way or another.

When I was a child my dad helped care for people with additional needs. For the last 10ish years my dad has been working as a CCA, which is someone who cares for the elderly, in long-term care facilities or in the clients home.

#9 They are often incarnated in a family that has some sort of dysfunctionality to it. That could be through addictions, mental illness, abuse, etc. They do this to bring light to the family.

Due to privacy I will not go into detail but I will say it is relevant for my dad.

#10 Although they do not keep their wings physically they keep them etherically.

When my dad was getting reiki done, the woman, who was doing the healing, said she saw angel wings coming from my dad. He has also had angels come in the rooms he was getting reiki done in before.

#11 You have a tendency to feel different and alienated from others

My dad has had a hard time making and keeping friendships which could be linked to this.

Something else that I have learned about earth angels/incarnated angels is that they tend to only live until they have completed their purpose. Many actually die as infants. However some do live to adulthood and settle down and have kids, if their purpose is to be done as an adult. Something I wondered is if his purpose was to bring 3 starseeds (each of a different type) together. Therefore he would have had my brother and I (an indigo and a crystal) and then divorced my mum. Then my mom would remarry and create a stable family for my sister the rainbow child who was attracted to our family due to there already being two other starseeds in the home. His purpose not being over could be explained by him still teaching and helping my brother and I (which would allow me to teach and help my half sister). Just a thought and I would love to hear you opinion about it in the comments along with any other thoughts or questions. Make sure you follow me here and on twitter so you get notification on when I make posts and when I upload videos to youtube. Until next time, Blessed Be.