Weekly Tarot Spread: Get to Know Yourself Better

Hi everyone! I hope you’re excited for Tarot readings to start again because I sure am! So as some of you may know I went through a temporary breakup last week and it made me realize that outside of my relationship I really don’t know who I am. So this week I thought it would be fun to do a tarot spread helping me figure out who I am. Next week we will recommence the chakra tarot spreads we were doing earlier this summer/spring. Also sorry for posting this so late. I did this reading this evening and it ended up hitting home so hard I just needed a long break from it before I could go over it again and type it up.  Lastly, this reading doesn’t have a picture to go with spread so I will try my best to show you the set up. Bear with me (the 5th card is supposed to be directly under the 4)

Card set up

Card 1   Card 9

Card 2  Card 8

Card 3  Card 7

Card 4  Card 6

Card 5

So I am not entirely sure what I expected to learn from this reading but it seems to be very much about the break up and the reading itself has come out a bit bleak in relation to us trying to make it work. So I am really hoping if I altar my path we can change the prediction of the cards.

The cards I pulled

As you can see I pulled mostly reversed cards and mostly major arcana cards.

Card 1: How people perceive you

I pulled the lovers in reverse. This firstly is important because the lovers is my signifier card. And second it seems very relevant to the break up and most of my family and a lot of my friends knew about it. This card pretty much says that they perceive me as having a lot of inner conflict and disharmony. They see my break in communication and they see the foundation of my relationship being cut off. Overall the affects of the break up are very obvious and all people see when looking at me is the effects of the break up.

Card 2: What you think you are

I pulled the empress in reverse. This card talks about losing willpower and strength. It really shows how I overwhelm others with my caring for them but at the same time I still depend on others (my boyfriend) to care for me. It also talks about neglecting my own needs. I think this whole break up has really shown me how much I depend on my partner and now they we are back together I may be neglecting my own needs as I am worried he will leave me again.

Card 3: What you think you aren’t

For this card I pulled the queen of swords reversed. The queen of swords when reversed is thought to be bitter, coldhearted, and resentful. And I full heartedly agree that I don’t think I am those things. I think I am the exact opposite actually.

Card 4: What you don’t know about yourself

This was the card that shook me up the most. I got the tower in reverse. This card is about a looming crisis that I am avoiding. This crisis has to happen though and what I have been relying on will no longer be there for me. To me it just really sounds like that even though we are back together now, it won’t last and I am just prolonging the pain. I really hope I can change this though.

Card 5: Your true self

This was the card that confused me the most. I pulled the Ace of pentacles in reverse. This card talks about missing your chance. So I don’t know if this really says who my true self is but it feels to me to be saying the break up was my chance and I missed it.

Card 6: What you can do now to be a better person

This card was the emperor. The emperor is about control, organization, having a plan, acting rationally, growing my goals, and being both methodical and strategic. I think this card is saying is if I have any chance of growing from this blip in our relationship rather than just everything falling apart I have to come up with a solid plan and follow it through like the emperor would.

Card 7: What you should stop doing right now

I pulled the six of cups. This card says that I need to stop wanting to return to a happier time and to stop looking to the past to try and solve the crisis.  It seems to be saying it is time to move on from the relationship and to go on to better things.

Card 8: What can you do to realize hidden aspects about yourself

I pulled the Judgement card in reverse for this one. It says that I need to stop judging myself so harshly, to move forward with pride and confidence, and to reflect on my life up until this point. In general I have always been my worst critic and I have been feeling guilty for the reasons behind the break up. So I think this is just saying that what has happened is done and there is no sense in beating myself up. All I can do is look back and what is in the past and better myself from here on out.

Card 9: summary

For this I pulled the Justice card. This card pretty much says my decisions effect myself and others long term, that the truth will come to pass, and that it is time to come to a solution once and for all. So pretty much despite all this horrible stuff everything will turn out how it is meant to and for all this to be over we need to come to a solution sooner than later.

Well that’s it for my reading today. Sorry it is so grim. If anyone got something more positive out of this reading than me please let me know in the comments, along with any other thoughts or question, because I’m obviously not thrilled about my interpretation about it. Also, make sure you follow me here and on twitter to get notification on when I post and to keep up to date on an upcoming giveaway. Until next time, Merry Meet and Blessed Be.

An interview: An agnostic dating a Wiccan

So after doing an interview on myself about what it is like being a Wiccan dating an Agnostic I thought it would be interesting to see my boyfriends side and get him to answer questions about what it is like being an Agnostic dating a Wiccan. I hope you enjoy hearing his answers as much as I did.

What did you think Wicca was before you had a Wiccan partner?

The only exposure I had to Wicca before dating a Wiccan was how media would portray it (mostly from the TV show Supernatural) which of course displays them with mostly malicious intent. To say I knew a little about Wiccans would be an overstatement of my knowledge. (maybe still is)

Were you surprised when you found out your partner was Wiccan?

Not really. She was in the middle of an early life crisis, having dropped out of university, struggling to find a job, and overall really didn’t have a defined path in her life. In such a period of life, where everything is up in the air, is where a lot of soul searching needs to be done to find out what you really believe. And being with her through that, I was pretty prepared for whatever revelations she may experience.

What’s your favourite part about having a Wiccan partner?

My favourite part of having a Wiccan partner is her appreciation of the outdoors, and nature. I get very happy when I see her just sitting outside, enjoying the nature around her. I get to experience this in the summertime because we like to go camping and hiking, which is always very enjoyable.

What is the most challenging thing about having a Wiccan partner?

The most challenging part of having a Wiccan partner is being supportive of the parts that I don’t understand. I can fully get behind the appreciation of nature, and other elements that are clearly visible in life, but it is much more difficult to try and understand the machinations of rituals, tarot readings, pendulum stuff, etc. I have absolutely no problem with her doing it, that will never be a problem, but it is challenging to continue to be an attentive partner, listening to her talk about it. Since I don’t personally believe in it, it is challenging to stay engaged.

Do you like it when your Wiccan partner includes you in their celebrations? Why or why not?

I am more than happy to partake in parts of celebrations that I can understand, like going on walks to appreciate nature, but I tend to let my partner do the more ritualistic celebrations on her own. I think this benefits the both of us, as I have no interest in partaking and we both know that if I made myself attend, it would likely lower the enjoyment for her as well.

Do you mind your partner doing spells or divination for you?

She is more than welcome to do spells and divination on me, so long as it is known that I don’t believe in the practice. I don’t think it is fair to either party if I “pretend” for the sake of pleasing someone. Just as they can’t change their beliefs on a whim, neither can I. For example, my partner performed reiki on me one night so that she could practice. I have no problem with this, as we both went in knowing that I didn’t believe in it.

Do you have any advice for wiccan’s in the “broomcloset” coming out about their faith to their partner?

If your partner has any sort of negative reaction to who you are, then they’re not a proper partner for you. It’s as simple as that. As I mentioned above, it did not surprise me in the least, nor did I care in the least, that my partner was Wiccan. Nor should it matter to anyone else. If anyone has the audacity to claim that their way is the right way, in a subject as murky and un-provable as religion, then they are too thick-skulled to even consider being in a relationship with. Just tell them. It’ll probably be the easiest litmus test you’ll ever do to see if they’re a reasonable, open-minded human being,

Any other thoughts or feelings about being agnostic while dating a Wiccan?

As long as both parties are respectful of each other’s beliefs, and do not try to impose their views on one another, then everything should go smoothly. In terms of agnostic-specific advice, we literally take no sides on the whole religion argument. Therefore, it makes our job really easy to stay out of the way and let our partner practice whatever they want.

Thank you for reading! If you have any thoughts or questions please leave them in the comments. Make sure you follow my blog and my twitter so you get notifications on when I post. Until next time, Merry Meet and Blessed Be.

An Interview: A wiccan dating an Agnostic

So I did an interview on myself but I am a wiccan dating an agnostic. Keep your eyes peeled for an interview I did on my boyfriend on what it is like being agnostic and dating a wiccan.

What did you think your partner thought Wicca was before they knew your faith?

I thought my partner would think that Wicca was a cult of people that believed they could do magic like Harry Potter. That it would be more “hocus pocus” than Christianity (which is what I formerly believed in).

Were you surprised by your partners reaction to you being Wiccan?

I wasn’t overly surprised by his reaction. He in general is a judgey person but at the same time he isn’t mean. So although you can see the judgement in his eyes, he never said anything mean. This judgement though wasn’t about Wicca exclusively. It is about religion as a whole.

What’s your favourite part about having an agnostic partner?

My favourite thing about my partner being agnostic is that while he doesn’t believe in what I do he doesn’t think that I am crazy. He believes that it is all possible.

What is the most challenging thing about having an agnostic partner?

Often times I feel isolated because I can’t talk to him about my religion and have him understand. So I either have to keep everything to myself or tell him for the sake of telling someone even though he is just listening without comprehending.

Do you like it when your agnostic partner partakes in your celebrations? Why or why not?

I like it when he partakes in activities like egg dying, bread making, nature walks, and stuff like that. It makes me happy having someone to celebrate with and have fun with. On the other hand though, I would not want him to do a ritual with me. That has a lot more to do with worshipping deities that he doesn’t believe in so I would feel really awkward if he attended one unless he specifically asked to.

Do you do spells or divination for your agnostic partner?

I have not done any spells for my partner. I don’t know if he wants me to and I haven’t had a need or guts to ask him about it. I don’t like to talk about the magick aspect of my faith with my boyfriend because I know that is something he thinks is less likely to be possible. Has for divination I have done readings that involve the both of us but not ones that are just about him, for the same reasons as spells.

Do you have any advice for wiccan’s in the “broomcloset” coming out about their faith to their partner?

At the end of the day if they can’t accept you for who you are, why would you want to be with them? Try and initially explain your faith as simply as possible and overtime you can introduce more and more ideas about your faith to them. Also, it may be good to ask them if they have any questions for you about it so you can better help them understand.

Any other thoughts or feelings about being Wiccan while dating an agnostic?

Just remember that in the Wiccan faith we are not suppose to try and convert others. Everyone has their own path. So while you can educate your partner on the topic to try and get them to understand your faith, don’t try and pressure them to partake in your celebrations or force them to do anything they aren’t comfortable doing. If you want them to treat you with respect then you need to also treat them with respect.

Thank you for reading! If you have any thoughts or questions please leave them in the comments. Make sure you follow my blog and my twitter so you get notifications on when I post. Until next time, Merry Meet and Blessed Be.

Weekly Tarot Reading: Potential Love Spread

Hi everyone! Today I did another love based spread. My roommate/best friend is going on a date tomorrow and she asked me if I could do a reading to see how it will go. I thought it might be fun to make it my spread of the week for all my single viewers.

Spread I did

I really enjoyed doing this spread. I found that the card placement meanings ended up being a little different than written. I found that the second card was more about how this new person would be like to date rather than how they specifically will feel about the relationship. As well as with the outcome I found that it didn’t have to do specifically with the date (which makes me think the date will go nowhere so there isn’t much of an outcome to discuss) and rather talks about an outcome for my friend in general. You’ll see what I mean.

Cards I pulled

How You Feel: Two of Pentacles

This card talks about ones inability to provide the energy and time required to make your partner happy. You have so much going on in other areas of your life right now that you find it hard to make them your priority. You have 2 main aspects in your life (love and finances/career is what I feel they are) that you’re trying to balance. One small error though and the balance will be lost. You need to figure out your priorities.

How they feel: Ten of Pentacles Reversed

Currently there won’t be an issue but one might come up later. This card talks about financial issues since it is a pentacles card. This card also talks about wasting your time. Relationships have been great for the short term fun but you lack substance for a relationship in the long haul.

Potential for a Relationship: Seven of Pentacles

This card talks about how you have a fear of failing. You feel you’ve put effort into relationships in the past but they never seem to be successful in the end. Despite numerous mistakes you are learning from them and becoming a better person from them. Your fear of failure may be keeping you from committing to this potential relationship.

Advice: Queen of Swords

This card is an archetype of an older, wiser, feminine intellect. It says to make judgments without emotion alone and to look at all the facts first before you make any decisions.

Outcome: Strength

Like I said I think there is no outcome to this date so I think this is an outcome for my friend in general and not for this specific relationship. In reverse this cards talks about mental illness which my friend has struggled with but I pulled the card upright which talks about having inner strength and fortitude during trying times. It talks about the ability to remain calm and strong even during immense struggle. It also says that maintaining your compassion will always be rewarded with having stability in your life either presently or in the near future. Also this card is a Major Arcana which I think is suggesting that this date is going to be insignificant in the grand scheme of things but the path you are on to self healing is amazing.

Lastly, I also noticed a lot of pentacles were pulled, and so I did a little research about it, and from what I read considering the topic and what I’ve learned so far it suggests a focus on the material aspects of the relationship. This relationship would have no spark because despite having a lot in common and being able to have fun together there is no emotional, intellectual, or spiritual bond in the relationship.

That’s it for this week! If you see anything I missed, have any general thoughts, or questions feel free to leave it in the comments. Thanks for reading and make sure to subscribe so you get notifications when I post. Merry Meet and Blessed Be!